lessons from Itachi.

“He who forgives and acknowledges himself…that is what it truly means to be strong!”

“If you want to know who you are, you have to look at your real self and acknowledge what you see.”

– Itachi Uchiha, Naruto Shippuden

***Disclaimer: I finished Naruto Shippuden with my boyfriend recently, and I truly fell in love with the whole Naruto franchise. There is so much depth in that show, it’s crazy. While I understand that identity crisis can truly only be healed through understanding our identity in Christ, I just thought it was awesome how these two quotes were brought to my attention, and have helped me do some self-reflection about my own identity. Just had to say that 😁

I was looking up a specific Itachi Uchiha quote for the pictures I took yesterday in my Akatsuki tank top (because Itachi is my favorite Akatsuki member in Naruto. I went through a lot of emotions regarding him, but he truly is amazing), and I found these other quotes that I resonated with heavily. This past week I had to come to terms with some things I’d already come to terms with previously, but had to think about again. And it honestly made me annoyed and irritated at myself; like I couldn’t get it right the first time, so here I am, having to start over again, or so it felt like.

There were so many things last week that grabbed my attention: the message I heard from God about looking through His eyes, several devotionals I’d read through this week, hard conversations that needed to be had, being by myself and facing things on my own, writing habits down that I needed to break, hearing yesterday’s sermon about my identity in Christ, how I am not to love the world and what it stands for, but to be in the world, and speak the Gospel, the Truth, and now these quotes. Everything that happened last week needed to happen before this new week began, before I went back to work, and back to possibly being busy again (I hope not).

Both of these Itachi’s quotes, I believe, are from when he was fighting with Kabuto, another main character, one of the villains, whose whole story is about finding out exactly who he is. He struggles by trying to take on traits and skills of other characters in the show, and ultimately, does his best to become just like another one of the main villains, Orochimaru by transfusing some of his blood into his body, and doing other experiments. He does all this because he is unsure of what his true identity is.

Itachi’s words were directed at Kabuto’s story, telling him that he needed to acknowledge who he was outside of all his efforts to try to become someone else.

Let’s talk about the first quote…

As I said before, having to face some issues I had already been dealing with again just made me irritated with myself. It made me want to mentally beat myself up, like, Seriously, why have you not moved past this yet? It can be hard to forgive other people, but for me, it really is hard to forgive myself for things I’ve done or said. And I use the excuse sometimes that because it’s me and not another person, I can be more harsh about it, which isn’t right. It’s that perfectionist side really trying to get at me.

It also makes me not want to acknowledge who I am; to be transparent, I’ve been having issues accepting the fact that I’m just not like everyone else. There’s this silent pressure I put myself under to be a certain way, either because I’m a poet or because I’m dating a rapper, or whatever, and it’s been difficult for me to learn to just be who I am because the people who are actively in my life are there because I was authentically myself, and not trying to be like anyone else.

Admittedly, it’s taken some strength to embrace myself as I am. So Itachi’s first words here really hit me when I read them. And I strive to continue to be strong in forgiving myself even when I still stumble into comparing myself or desiring to be something or someone I’m not.

And now, the second quote…

I feel like a lot of people could read this quote and be like, “DUH, Itachi!” But how many of us look at ourselves in the mirror and wish we looked like someone else? How many times do we do something or act a certain way, and wish we could be different? Do we wish we could be more or less of anything…loud, quiet, brave, creative, etc.? Or, how many times do we watch someone else behave a certain way, and long to be similar?

When Itachi says “real self,” I’d like to think it means seeing me stripped of all outside opinions…what is left? How do I see myself, not in relation to anyone or anything? Then, can I slowly add on outside factors that are true to form my identity – the things that I personally believe, that stand for who I am, and not things I claimed are a part of me based off of anyone or anything else?

Knowing who we really are is understanding our character traits, personalities, and physical features, and accepting them as they are because that’s who God made us to be…not because we changed ourselves to fit in someway, somehow. It doesn’t mean we can’t mature or change, but here in this moment, we have to acknowledge ourselves, and be more than okay with the way we are.

And most importantly, we have to know that God acknowledges us as we are. He loves us so much, that He longs for us to come as we are to Him. We don’t have to be all “cleaned up,” we don’t have to have a perfect performance history, we don’t have to have perfect church attendance, He’s just asking us to be vulnerable with Him, and to surrender our identity to Him, because He sees us as we are, and He desires for us to see ourselves the way He sees us – fearfully and wonderfully made.

Who says an anime can’t help you learn something? 😉

Have you ever felt like Kabuto: searching for your true identity by taking on other people’s characteristics, styles, views/beliefs, routines? Have you ever tried to make yourself physically look like someone else because you didn’t like what you saw in the mirror? How would you define your “real self”? When was the last time you went to God as you are: not trying to ask for things, not trying to appear “better” than you are or feel, but truly calling on Him in vulnerability?

Mishy 🦋💛

reality.

Well, y’all, it’s official. A set date has been made for when I’ll be returning to work, and it all seems so surreal. Part of me wonders how I’ll be once I do return; will I go back to the same habit of being constantly busy? I really hope not; seeing the hours I’m going to work though, I’m nervous that it’ll just be going back to same old, same old for me.

But I still have about three weeks left of social distancing, so I’m going to take advantage of it as much as possible!

Even though going back to work seems like going “back to reality,” I know for a fact it won’t be the same. Already, we’re having to change so many ways in which we need to do things; I’m afraid the place that I worked at before will never return to be the way it was even months after we return.

Don’t get me wrong, it will be sweet to reunite with my coworkers, and to see what new children I’ll get to have this summer. But a part of me does wish I could have had just one more week with the kids I had for this past school year. Even if I was rippin’ and runnin’ this semester (well, most of the school year), I still enjoyed my kids. I enjoyed teaching with my co-teachers, and getting to talk with them, not only about school things, but also about our lives.

And I could say that the routine was bearable, but maybe now I can have a better handle on how I do things from here on out when it comes to the time I do have outside of work.

Another part of me feels sort of selfish because I know that while I’ve had practically ten weeks off, there have been so many people who have continued to work, either on the front lines as essential workers, or from home. For some, it has picked up their workload even more so, and I do want to say how grateful I am for those who have been continuing to work through this whole pandemic time.

I can only continue to pray that even before I go back to work, things will get better. Life will return to when we can all be in large groups together without face masks, and without the concern that we may be endangering each other. And I can also pray that, when it is time for me to return to work, that I won’t return to the same habits that I had, but will be more present, more aware of how I’m feeling, more willing to sacrifice a routine or schedule to do things I feel led to do instead of doing things I “have” to do outside of work, and more grateful for the way things are, because things change quicker than we can blink our eyes.

What are some things you’ve learned that you can take with you once a routine away from social distancing starts for you? How can you be sure that you’ll stick to those things moving forward?

Mishy 🦋🤎

meet pops. 🌿

Story time!

It’s been a minute since I’ve told a story on here, so I’m excited that I get to indulge y’all in something different!

If you follow me on Instagram, you’ll know that I posted a picture of this little guy on my story this past week, asking who wanted to hear a story about him…

I also asked my followers what I should name him, and after only several good name choices were offered (Xavier, Edward, Jeffrey, Pops) I decided to go with “Pops” because of what this plant has gone through. And here’s where I’ll explain…

it looks like the end…

One night, my boyfriend closed my porch door. Normally, Pops is on the complete opposite side of where the door shuts so that he isn’t in danger of getting shut by the door.

So, you see what happened then…

Yes, my boyfriend accidentally shut him in the door, causing many of his little leaves to come off, and the top half of one of his branches completely came off. I felt many emotions…sad, upset, frustrated. I had watched this little succulent grow in over a year after my stepdad gave him to me for Valentine’s Day 2019. He was the only plant that I kept alive since Reyna and Tula 1.0 were unfortunately not taken care of properly last summer. And suddenly, he’d been crushed because, as my boyfriend put it, “He got up and walked toward the door without him seeing.” 😭

I honestly felt like Pops was going to die after that, and I was so sad about it (this was before I got my hibiscus plants, Reyna and Tula 2.0). I loved watching him gain new leaves, and I eventually wanted to repot him this summer.

pop go the new leaves

You read it right!

After several days of continuing to water Pops and give him as much sun as he needed, I took a good look at him, and noticed that there were little new leaves popping up where the old leaves had been (I guess those old leaves were dead).

I couldn’t have been happier! I’m really glad I didn’t throw him away when he got crushed, because now I get to see the new growth happening first hand! 😍🌱

let’s talk about us

As I thought about Pops’ story, I thought about us as people. There are a lot of things in life that can and will crush us at some point, and in those moments, we have choices to make. We can either throw all the potential we have stored within ourselves away, and give into what crushed us, or we can choose to try to keep growing and striving toward moving past it.

Of course, I encourage us to do the latter; we are so much more capable of healing if we give ourselves time. But too often, if we don’t heal in the time we desire, we can tend to give up, or try to take shortcuts to healing by just pretending everything is okay.

A plant may be able to pretend things are okay by looking okay for a small period of time. But then what happens? One day, it starts to droop, or it loses leaves, visibly showing that it’s not okay, that it needs water, sunlight, or fertilizer. And the same goes with us as people!

Pops was a great reminder for me to keep going, even when I’m being crushed by a heavy emotion or event in my life. He also is a great reminder to keep taking care of myself with whatever I may need spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. And I hope you’re reminded of this as well!

What’s something in your life that’s been a great reminder? It can be a plant, an animal, a game, an event, etc. What was the lesson it reminded you of? Did it change the way you view yourself or others?

Mishy 🦋🤎

put to practice.

And just like that, y’all…I write a blog post about how things change, and today, things went and changed up on me! 😂 God must’ve been like, Okay, so you writing all this stuff…let’s see how well you put it into practice when it happens!

Some of the meetings I’d set up for the Brown Skin Girls project had to be switched around, leaving me another free day to do what I needed to do! In my mind, that just tells me that God thought I needed an extra day to prepare myself, and I’m grateful for that. Because I was excited, but also low-key nervous to start this project up, and having another day allowed me to truly be ready!

How do you handle change? Sometimes it’s easier to brush it off when it doesn’t inconvenience us, but when it throws a whole wrench in matters you’d already planned, it can be many things: annoying or frustrating. It can cause us to place a whole raincloud over a day that can still be just as good even if things didn’t go as planned.

I could go into how we’re all doing this thing that none of us ever planned, but I’m sure you all understand by now. I’m sure many of us have gone through different phases during this time, and are still going through those phases as it drags on longer and longer. I pray that you see each day not as an inconvenience, but as opportunity. That we allow ourselves to see the silver lining when a cloud comes through.

Did anyone write down their end-of-the-month check-up based off my blog post yesterday? If you missed out, you can find it here. It’ll help you think about all the changes that have occurred, the ways in which you’ve changed, and what should leave or stay in regards to May being tomorrow!

Not too much to write about today, BUT I’ve decided to tell the story about my succulent plant here on the blog tomorrow, so stay tuned!

Mishy 🦋🤍

april: end-of-the-month check-up.

April’s last day is tomorrow, and May is open for so many possibilities.

Thirty-one days for things to change. People say a lot can happen in a year, but a lot happens in just one month! For instance, in April, I did a photoshoot for a clothing brand (go, Modern Hippie!), I bought two hibiscus plants and repotted them (and am scheming to buy a shelf specifically for plants in my apartment, along with another pot to replant my succulent). I started a new skin care routine that has my face ✨GLOWING✨ (plus I’ve been drinking more water too), and I’ve been doing a 6-week home workout challenge to keep myself in shape since the gyms are closed (and I won’t be stepping foot in one until this whole pandemic is fully resolved!).

See how much changed for me? And now I’ve got another guaranteed month off of work, and I’m curious to see what God will do in this time for me. I’ve already got things planned, but how many times have things that we’ve planned not go the way we thought they would? And how often are we okay with that?

I’m going to do something I haven’t done since January, when I originally posted this, and give y’all an end-of-the-month check-up. Just a list of things for y’all to think about as April is closing, and May begins!

Accomplishments 🎉

  • What did you achieve this month?
  • Did you start something new?
  • Did you finish any resolutions you made at the beginning of the year?

Lessons 🤔

  • What did you learn this month?
  • How can you take any failures/mistakes you made this month, and turn them into lessons learned?
  • How can you apply these lessons to this next month coming up?

Goals 📝

  • What new goals do you have for next month?
  • Which goals from last month will be transferred to this month? How long do you think it will take to achieve them?
  • Write down specific things you need to work on. Remember that your goal isn’t to get these things perfect by next month, it’s to progress in them next month!

Spiritual Life 🙏🏽

  • What was one major thing God revealed to you this month?
  • What was a prayer God answered this month? (Not answered with a “yes” specifically, just answered: yes, no, wait, etc.)
  • In what ways do you feel like you’ve grown spiritually?
  • What areas in your spiritual life do you need to work on? 

Relationships 🤝

  • Name at least 3-5 people you got to meet/got to know this month.
  • Name at least 3-5 people you would want to meet up with/get to know better next month.
  • If you weren’t really social this month, write down ways you can make more time to spend time with those you love 

Self-Care ✨

  • Did you get to make time for yourself this month? 
  • If “YES,” in what ways? Which ones will you hold onto this next month? Will/how can you switch things up next month?
  • If “NO,” how can you be sure to make time for yourself/take care of yourself this month? What things will you focus on in your self-care routine? 

***Remember! Self-care doesn’t have to be expensive…you don’t need to spend money! There are plenty of ways to take care of yourself that cost nothing 😊

I know I’ll be spending a significant amount of time in my own journal jotting things down so I can anticipate the changes going to occur!

What are the thoughts you have when the end of the month, or even the end of a season occurs? How can you better anticipate the changes that will happen? Do you even take thought to when time changes?

Mishy 🦋🤍

timing and choices.

Happy Monday, luvvies.

For those who live in my city of Chattanooga, TN, overnight we went through tornadoes going through parts of our city, taking away homes, vehicles, but most importantly the people we love and cherish. If things were far from “normal” with all the coronavirus/quarantine stuff going on, normalcy just became non-existent to many who now can’t even follow the stay at home order because their home is unavailable to them.

Someone close to me was affected, although not as drastically as some, but it doesn’t take away the fact that the vulnerability and fragility of the human life becomes way more evident. I’ve seen so many social media posts and conversations about how God is really trying to get our attention with the timing of everything going on, and I couldn’t agree more, if I’m honest.

With everyone busy with other things: work, school, personal agendas, relationships, etc., it’s too easy for those of us who believe in God and Jesus to put Him on the back burner. And I place myself in this category as well; when I was going through my normal routine pre-corona, I did my daily devotions, but it was hard for my mind to truly sit and focus sometimes when I had so many other things on my mind.

Now, with so many of those things taken away, it makes it easier for me to really sit and focus on what God’s Word is trying to say to me when I read it. It makes me more prayerful because I’m not thinking about the routine things, but I’m thinking about people and their situations during this time more. I feel more selfless now than I did before.

Now, with the timing of the tornado hitting now, it’s sort of a win/lose. On one hand, it’s nice that some of those who’ve lost their homes or cars do not need to worry about trying to get to work while they’re trying to figure out what to do, since the virus has shut down almost every business there is, minus groceries/food places. On the other hand, these things are still losses. And I can’t imagine the depth of sorrow that is hovering over those who’ve unexpectedly lost someone they love due to this natural disaster. First, they fear coronavirus possibly doing this, and then an unexpected event such as this takes a person they love away instead. I am truly praying for everyone affected by this tragedy.

Yet while we can sit here and debate on whether it was “good timing” or not, I know that everything that has happened so far has been in God’s timing. And while we can sit here and speculate what God is trying to tell us in these times, I pray we simply trust Him and ask Him what He’s trying to show us personally with everything going on.

Because the thing about the time we have is this: we have choices. We can choose to spend more time in God’s Word, or ignore it. We can choose to be more prayerful or not. We can choose to trust Him, or to run to something else to numb the pain and the questions of the these times. We had these choices when things were “normal” too, but we just felt like everything else was more important, or we felt rushed with our schedules to do anything about it.

Now, with all of us being more mindful with the time we have, the choices we make are even more deliberate. So, let us deliberately take the time to understand what our priorities are, what we’ll spend our time doing. And let us sincerely and deliberately take the time to pray for those who are dealing with both the tornado aftermath and the coronavirus, and lend a helping hand if we can.

Mishy 🦋🤍

natural.

Embrace your most natural form right now.

Wow, I feel like I have a lot of thoughts going through my mind these days, which means I potentially have a lot of things I could write about! That’s a nice feeling 😄 I honest felt like maybe I’d lost my sense or skill of writing to be able to blog every day again. Praise God for allowing these thoughts into my brain! 🙌🏽

Anyways, back to what I was saying…

Embrace your most natural form right now.

When people talk about natural vs. getting all dolled up with makeup and lashes, the conversation can turn sour pretty quickly. It’s like talking about women and their clothing options — Woman A will say she feels beautiful not wearing crop tops, and then Woman B will get offended and point out that women who do wear crop tops aren’t ugly, and Woman A shouldn’t have said what she said…even though Woman A wasn’t saying at all that women who do wear crop tops are ugly. You get what I’m saying? People are too quick to start arguments over things like this.

I say all that to say: when I’m talking about being your most natural form, I’m not saying that people who wear makeup or lashes are “doing too much,” or “aren’t beautiful.” So, just get that out of your brains now, please. I won’t argue with anyone in any comments about this post.

What I am saying is that while most of us are stuck at home with nothing to do, let’s give our bodies time to breathe. And when I mean that, I mean skin, nails, hair, anything that you normally enhance. I know you’ve seen all the memes about people who normally get these things done and how they’re feeling right now since all the hair/waxing/nail salons are closed for the time being…

And while they’re funny and true, I think we can all do with our bodies taking breaks from those things for a couple of weeks (or however long this will take). Again, this isn’t to say that it’s wrong for people to get their eyebrows waxed or their nails done (I’d like to have my nails done myself), but it’s just an observation that this is a time for our bodies to do their natural thing and breathe.

I challenge you to take the time to look at yourself in the mirror sans (without) makeup. Look at your hands and feet without nails. Have a gander at those eyebrows filling in, if you don’t tweeze them yourself, and really bask in the beauty that is in your natural state. Point out what you love about yourself without all the enhancements, and maybe make it a point to go without a certain thing even when all this stuff is over.

I know I’m ready to take these braids down. As much as I’ve loved not having to deal with my natural hair for a while, and getting to see what I’d look like with a different hair color, I’m ready to put my fingers through my own, natural hair again.

Mishy 🦋🤍

the pink moon. 🌕

Did anyone get a chance to see the Pink Moon last night?

Truthfully, I was a little sad to find out a couple of hours before the peak time that it wasn’t actually pink, but I love a good full moon anyway! But of course, after sitting outside and locating where it was, the clouds were covering it off and on. I find that every time some sort of cool, space thing is happening, the clouds seem to want to cover it up most of the time.

Thankfully, though, the clouds were moving, so every few minutes or so, the Pink Moon in all its fullness would come popping out from behind the thick clouds. And it was beautiful. And even if it was covered by thin or thicker clouds, you could still see how bright it was by the rays poking out from behind them.

Some of the thin layers of clouds were shaped like ocean waves as they passed over the moon. And as I looked at how bright the moon was, it made me think of what it would think if it knew what was happening on earth right now. And maybe it shining so brightly was its way of reminding us that, even in the heaviness this pandemic is bringing to our world, there can still be light to see. There can still be light to break through.

Although the moon doesn’t really know what’s happening, God does. And maybe He allowed the moon to be as beautiful as it was last night to remind us that He is still here, and He still sees and hears us, even if it seems things are going in cycles, and there aren’t very many positive details about what’s happening. I know as I watched the moon, I felt very grateful to still be able to see it. I am grateful even now for what the moon represents in regards to change: P.I.N.K ➡️ Phases. Innovation. New. Knowledge.

Phases

The moon changes every night as it prepares to go into all of its different phases, and we all go through change just like it. Right now, we’re all changing in a lot of the same ways as we practice social distancing, but we also are still changing in our own different ways as we use this time we have. But each phase can still be beautiful; and each phase serves a purpose as it helps us get to the next phase. Think: what phase are you currently in? What are you doing now to prepare for the next phase?

Innovation

Some of us are doing some major innovation, or transformation. Maybe our “normal” lives before all of this had some toxic characteristics and habits, and now that we can slow down, we can uproot those things from our lives, and establish better routines. Maybe we ourselves are changing: physically, spiritually, emotionally, mentally. How can you see innovation in your life right now?

New

Obviously, we are in a completely new phase of life that many of us have not encountered ever before. I don’t know about anyone else, but I’ve never been out of work for this long, and still been getting paid for it. Even though we may be in the same locations, how we’re interacting (or not interacting) with our environment is still very new to us. I already had to think about washing my hands when I was at work (since I work at preschool), but now I’m thinking about washing my hands outside of work – while I’m at home, if I go to the grocery store, if I step right outside of my apartment complex just to get some fresh air.

We’re all thinking of and creating new ways to live with how things are. And while it’s easy to see the negative side of these things, we can still create some positive experiences. What are some new things you’ve done or are doing these days?

Knowledge

Each day, we have the opportunity to learn. We may not be in classrooms or jobs, but we still have technology at our fingertips. We still have the things and people in our homes to go to for information, to teach/guide us in new things. Something we may have wanted to know about can now be learned because we’re all inside. Not to mention, we’re learning more about ourselves and how we presently function, and can better function as people now, and whenever we can all go back outside. What are some things you’re learning these days? Who is teaching you? What resources are you taking advantage of now?

All of these things were thoughts I had as I sat and watched the clouds hide then reveal the moon. What are some thoughts you had last night as you watched it? If you weren’t able to see it, did you still wait to see if you could?

Mishy 🦋🤍

those moments.

How silly of me!

Yesterday was officially the first day of spring, and I could’ve added how perfect it was due to all many blessings I experienced yesterday. We’re FINALLY out of the wintry fog and rain! I cannot express how happy I am that winter is over. Now, we just need this whole coronavirus thing to blow over along with it!

While yesterday was a pretty special day, today is a special day too. It’s a day I’ve talked about frequently if you’ve followed my journey closely for quite some time. But to those who are fairly new, I’ll try to keep it short and simple…

Three Years Ago Today…

I was at a William Singe concert in Nashville, by myself. I got VIP so I was able to meet him and Alex Aiono, who was touring with him. Along with them, I got to meet the keyboardist of the tour, Silas Doss (he’s also a songwriter and producer). Silas gave me an opportunity to speak a poem on his Instagram live that night, and that was the first time I’d publicly said a poem of mine for an audience of that many people, even if they were online.

After that night, I knew I was made for poetry. The responses and replies to my words were so love-filled. People truly connected with my words, and I felt extremely humbled to feel that. I could feel the Lord confirming it in my soul that night. Who knew a concert night meant for fun would be the same night my purpose was revealed?

But Even Passed that Night…

There have been plenty of other days and nights that helped shape me and my poetry. Like the night I went to my first poetry workshop in Chattanooga (where my Poetry is LIT people at?). Or the night I performed on stage for the very first time. Or the night I went to an open mic, unexpectedly performed a poem, and ended up meeting the love of my life. It’s crazy how moments change us like that – we meet new people, experience new things, God opens new doors and closes others.

Even as we all sit in our homes, these moments are still shaping us. There can still be a time that defines when things changed for you. Maybe you decide to create that blog or YouTube page you always wanted to make because now you have the time. Maybe you can practice an instrument, or pick up playing a new one you’ve always wanted to try. Maybe you’ll get the courage to talk to that person you’re interested in now that you’ll both be in quarantine/social distancing, but technology allows you both to get to know each other better. Maybe you’ll look yourself in the mirror and finally stop sabotaging who you are, and decide to love yourself from here on out, no matter what.

Whatever Moment You Have in the Next Week (or So)…

I hope you catch it. I hope you realize it, and feel every bit of it as you’re experiencing it. Because a moment like that only lasts so long, and it’s difficult to truly relive it the way it initially happened.

That doesn’t mean you can’t reminisce on a moment like that, because of course you can! Just do your best not to let any moments you have these days pass you by. Take it all in.

What is a special moment (or special moments) that you can think of that changed the trajectory of your life? Do you think you’ve had a moment like that currently/recently? How has it affected you during this time?

Mishy 🦋💚

end-of-the-month check-up.

TODAY.

Tell me HOW the last day of January is here already?! Normally, I’m with everyone who says that January is so long that it feels like the complete first half of the year is happening instead of the first month, but I truly feel like it has flown by.

Maybe it’s because I have SO much I want to do this year, and I want the time to slow down so I can get it all done, but of course, time waits for no one.

I want to do this thing where I (and you, whoever you are, reading) give ourselves a little check-up to see how we’re doing, where we are, and what may need to change/stay the same as a new month approaches. I feel like this is something my friends over at Dream On Youth have done/written about! (You should go check them out with their new website up!!)

So, let’s begin, shall we?

Accomplishments 🎉

  • What did you achieve this month?
  • Did you start something new?
  • Did you finish any resolutions you made at the beginning of the year?

Lessons 🤔

  • What did you learn this month?
  • How can you take any failures/mistakes you made this month, and turn them into lessons learned?
  • How can you apply these lessons to this next month coming up?

Goals 📝

  • What new goals do you have for next month?
  • Which goals from last month will be transferred to this month? How long do you think it will take to achieve them?
  • Write down specific things you need to work on. Remember that your goal isn’t to get these things perfect by next month, it’s to progress in them next month!

Spiritual Life 🙏🏽

  • What was one major thing God revealed to you this month?
  • What was a prayer God answered this month? (Not answered with a “yes” specifically, just answered: yes, no, wait, etc.)
  • In what ways do you feel like you’ve grown spiritually?
  • What areas in your spiritual life do you need to work on?

Relationships 🤝

  • Name at least 3-5 people you got to meet/got to know this month.
  • Name at least 3-5 people you would want to meet up with/get to know better next month.
  • If you weren’t really social this month, write down ways you can make more time to spend time with those you love

Self-Care ✨

  • Did you get to make time for yourself this month?
  • If “YES,” in what ways? Which ones will you hold onto this next month? Will/how can you switch things up next month?
  • If “NO,” how can you be sure to make time for yourself/take care of yourself this month? What things will you focus on in your self-care routine?

***Remember! Self-care doesn’t have to be expensive…you don’t need to spend money! There are plenty of ways to take care of yourself that cost nothing 😊

This is what I can think of right now, as it’s almost 7am and I’ve been up since around 5am 😅 Use this as a guide, and be sure to add on your own lists and bullets of things that you want to check yourself with!

Let’s make this last day of January count! And let’s prepare for February’s arrival 💕

Mishy 🦋