couple > me.

I don’t want this post to come off as me complaining, and just in case…

*DISCLAIMER: I am truly grateful for the wonderful, loving responses from everyone who’s supported my boyfriend’s latest music video for “Flower Child”! In no way am I saying that I don’t appreciate the sweet feedback from those who love it! Thank you again! 💙

Okay, now I’m just going to go ahead and write this…

I’ve noticed that my social media/my brand will get more feedback / attention when I post pictures or videos of me and my boyfriend, but when it comes to just me, or a project I’m doing, or a video or blog I’ve posted…the support is sometimes lacking. I won’t say there isn’t any support, because I’d be lying. But why is it that some people JUMP at the chance to support my relationship before what I do individually? It’s so interesting to me.

It’s as if I and the things that I do are only “valuable” to others when I’m seen with my significant other. And I know that’s not true to those who are genuine supporters of me, but all of a sudden, people start coming out of the woodwork when my boyfriend shows up on my page. While I appreciate the support our relationship gets, I’m curious to know what you all think about this.

Do we idolize the human relationship so much that we’ve forgotten the value of the individual, and what they do by themselves? Are we all so stuck on the infatuation of what a relationship can give us (whether we’re in one or just watching one from a distance), that if we see a person who’s single, we can’t just see them as single and satisfied, we have to see them as “single and searching”, “single and talking to someone, sort of”, or “single, but they got ‘hoes,’ probably”?

Again, I don’t say this to complain, and to all those who just love love, that’s great! You do you! I’m just wondering what other people’s thoughts are on this. Because, of course, you can’t be on social media these days without seeing AT LEAST ONE couple photo, be it someone you personally know, someone you used to know, or a celebrity couple.

When we see a relationship posted, what are the things we think? What are the things that we value in seeing that couple? What are the things we hope for and wish for when we’re in relationships of our own?

Does seeing how other people on social media treat their significant others affect how we would want to be treated in our own relationships, or can we distance ourselves and our own lives from those things, and live the way we want to, in agreement with our partners? How are we judging other people in their relationships when things are posted on social media, or even when things aren’t posted?

And how do all these things affect how we view the individual person? Because you know it does, especially if you know one out of the two people in a relationship. You may think, “Hmm, I know (insert guy’s name here) really well, so that means his girlfriend must be (insert assumption here).” You may not say it out loud, but you might have thought this, maybe even subconsciously. You have expectations for how the individuals are based on seeing them as a couple.

Just me rambling on some thoughts I had! I would love to hear some feedback on what you all have to say. I’m not here to start arguments, though, so, if that’s your goal, please don’t comment. But if you want to show me a different perspective, then by all means, please do! I’d love to have a conversation with you about it.

Or, maybe this post is just for you to think, to get some of your own thoughts out, and that’s great too! I know just writing this blog has helped me re-evaluate how I view myself, and other individuals who are in relationships as well!

Mishy 🦋🤎